phil wrote:over the summer things changed as I got together with my high school friend. we had been friends for a long time. I asked her if she'd like to move down and she did. we had this deep history as we were great friends but because of her family she got kind of taken away. we were not really girlfriend and boyfriend but there were feelings. I never saw her for 30 years! from 20 to 50 ish lol.. we grew up , but the dynamics of our friendship and love didn't change. she has 4 kids and grandkids so I missed all that but didn't ave my own kids.
Im really happy now. She does a lot of things to make the house a home. she might not do construction but she helps me in so many ways and that is her contribution, and I discuss every project in detail. I think I needed not the help so much as someone that I could plan things with and talk about the details and work towards having a happy home together. It sure helps when you work hard at something and you get that little compliment that gives you the drive to keep going. This forum helps a lot with that.
If you haven't met anyone yet just keep doing what you are doing and take time to get out and socialize in some way. You'll meet the right one and it does matter that you share common interests. at 50'ish you get kinda set in your ways and you can't change for others, but there are lots of ladies that like working on houses or at least appreciate a man with some ambitions.
So very interesting reading your comments. I recently began dating a man just up the street. He has 18 acres about 2 miles South, with an old home in need of "lots of work".
His son owns the house up the street & he stays there for now because it's closer to work. He's been there for 4 years, but our paths didn't cross because of our work schedules.
At 57 years old, I often said to myself "Unless someone just shows up knocking on my door, I doubt I'll meet my mate". Well, that's pretty close!
Funny how the right person comes along when you least expect it. And a big plus...he's an electrical engineer. Great guy, great job, total gentleman (doors & chairs!) and he loves old, quirky houses!
So far my Peeps haven't scared him away!
So...You might be an Old House owner.... If your "Peeps" accept your new BF/GF! (I know they would let me know if they didn't approve!)
....When coworkers ask if your house is finished yet & your standard reply has become "never".