Eperot wrote:Another cool thing that happened to me this summer was a phone call from my ex-wife's mother. She had given us the antique pine cabinet you see here and when the divorce happened, the cabinet left as well. Well, after some thought she decided to offer it to me, and I jumped at the chance. Assuming she was selling it I asked her how much....and she said "for you, it's free. I never should have taken it in the first place, and it wants to live in your home." I thought that was very generous. And indeed, it is home once more, for good.
Going through my own marital split over the past year... this made me smile. thank you for sharing it Eric
When I got married I was content and would have likely remained married, although to my own detriment. My ex was not a terribly happy person and looked for it in external ways rather than drawing from an internal well of what is truly meaningful. This resulted in a lot of cash hemorrhaging on impulse purchases as temporary "happiness" band-aids, which are always short term and never address the root problem. Eventually, she sought happiness with another man and ended the marriage. And I have run into her recently and guess what....she's no better off. So things have really improved in my life even with one less income, and I am much less stressed out personally and financially. I also found it was very easy for me to resume single life again. Perhaps people like me just do better alone. 
